Friday, August 20, 2010

Is this how you break up with a friend?

We're in our 20s. I have feelings for her, but she doesn't feel the same way. Problem is, we're very close friends. We've tried keeping the friendship because it is important to us, but we know how turbulent it is, and we try to prop each other up. She'll tell me constantly how much I mean to her, and that there's no one out there like me, and I do the same; but we've been on so many breaks; it's getting difficult. We're on a break right now actually, and I know she's been crying about it.





I guess it's time to have the serious talk; I want to tell her exactly what I am feeling, but I am not sure it's a good idea. I want to tell her that I still do care about her, that no one could replace the times we've had. And that, if I could go back a year to when we first met; that I would tell my past self to go talk to you; because even though there were so many arguments, and hurt; it was worth it, because she's one in a million, and I wouldn't meet someone like her again. But some people come and go in life, and it's just time for us to both leave. I've always tried to be honest with her, do you think she'll hate this? Or appreciate that I am trying to leave on good terms, so it won't be weird if I run into her again?Is this how you break up with a friend?
Yes she will hate this.


If she is so great, then why stop being friends.


Just because life changes, does not mean you have to no longer speak to people.


You should just tell her that you will no longer be able to see each other as much as before, but still want to be a part of her life, though it will not be as intense or as often as before.

My exboyfriends friend emailed me after our break up. Should I reply or ignore?

we broke up and his friend just sent me a message saying he noticed im single now and asked how my ex is doing.. hes never talked to me before through email. im pretty much done with my ex and dont care to keep any contact. should i respond? as a friend or straight to the point of his questions? or not at all?My exboyfriends friend emailed me after our break up. Should I reply or ignore?
I would respond just to be polite. I mean, as you said, he didn't do anything wrong. To the answers that said he may like you, that may very well be true, but it's not for certain from what you wrote here. I mean, when I broke up with my ex, I had several people contacting me, noticing I was single, basically wondering what was up and how I was doing. It may just be that, or it may be something more. I would politely respond and answer any questions that you feel are appropriate. I wouldn't be rude to him, he may just be trying to be nice. Or if he does like you, then let him down easy.My exboyfriends friend emailed me after our break up. Should I reply or ignore?
He is just trying to hit on you now that you are single. That is not a good idea, since your ex is his friend. You will only cause problems and you ex will probably accuse you of cheating with him before you split. You are too vulnerable right now to be approached by this guy. He knows you are vulnerable, so his motives should be suspect!!
its just an e-mail. Respond straight forwardly with your point getting acorss. No small talk. Hope this helps :) and dont show signs of being ';interested'; in him, maybe thats where hes trying to get at, or maybe he is sincerly sorry and asks how your doing. Either way don't show off that your upset. make it clear you moved on.


Good day xoxo
I can't answer if you should email him or not but I can tell you if you answer to get back at your ex that is wrong. If you email him to see whats up and end up likening him no biggy that is for the two friends to fight out.





Peace
I'd personally go straight to the point but politely answer everything, this way you don't burn any future bridges and it's hard for the ex to talk about what a bi-atch you are and blah blah.
Girl.. depends. If the message is mean, don't reply. Its a low class of fighting. If its like all nice and like they tried to comfort you, then hit reply and say ';tnx';
hmm if you dont care about your ex at all anymore, then why not reply?.... if you still care about his feelings, then i'd say be careful if you decide to write back cause it could get back to your ex
Respond if you want but be cautious of this guys intentions. Sounds a little sketchy to me, but I'm sure you already knew this.
I would cut all ties just pretend that you did not get it. To reply would be playing with fire... plus your ex most likely set it up.
I would never date an ex's friend. That's me though. Of course be friends with him but just tell him your not interested.
I suspect this guy wants to date you. If you want to date him, respond. If not, don't.
I think this friend is interested in you.
It all depends on how you feel towards him. Do you want to make it up with him? If you do, call him.;-)
IGNORE dont be stupid. also...your ex could be setting you up.. good luck =}
Block his friend...smells fishy to me....
as a friend, dont be a dick cmon
maybe he wants to hook up with you; if you like him as a friend you could keep contact but if you don't really care about him one way or the other just ignore any of his texts

Help me break up with a friend!?

I am totally lost on what to do, so I am turning to this ';community'; for some advice. I have a friend who I have known for 8 years (we are in our 30s), but I no longer have any interest in keeping the friendship up--for many different reasons that would take me too long to explain.


I am not the kind of person who could just tell her what is going on, why I don't want to talk to her anymore, etc. because I don't want to hurt her feelings--she is extremely sensitive and takes everything very hard. I know that if I said anything negative to her at all, it would be discussed with her husband for months to come and she would obsess over it, so I have to be very careful about what I say and how I say it.


I should also mention that she only has 2 friends, myself and a neighbor of hers (no joke) and I know that it would completely devastate her if I dropped her with no explanation. I don't know if she knows how fed up I am with her.


Any ideas on how to accomplish this?Help me break up with a friend!?
its always hard to to end a fading friendship. i know exactly what you mean. sometimes one thing leads to another and you find yourself completely fed up with a friend and at that point it is time to end the friendship because if you don't its going to put a strain on your life and it just adds extra stress that you just don't need. i would suggest confronting her as hard as it may be. i would just say we've been through a lot and having you as a friend was an amazing part of my life and i would never regret that but i feel like soem things have happened that you and i both know and things just arent the same. i just feel like at this point in my life i can't handle this type of friendship. i think i honestly just need some space because a lot of things are going on in my life right now. Although i feel as though it would be better if we werent friends for a while, i just want you to know that if you ever truly need me im only a phone call away. thanks for everything and i definately dont want to upset you. i know you will make a great best friend to someone else and if you branch out good things will come to you.





i know this is hard but i wish the best of luck to you!Help me break up with a friend!?
Well, in this situation i think it is best to let her know what's going on. It's sort of rude to just not say anything and pretty inevitable that she'll come back because she's a good friend. I understand that she is sensitive. but if you have something to talk about with her it is best to do it up front. i'm not saying she'll take it fine, she might even take it badly. but the point is that you got your point out and she has a chance to either understand or just ignore it and wallow in self pity. She might need some cool off time when you are done talking to her but ultimately, you'll be doing something good for her. people sometimes need a reality check and if she gets one from time to time she'll become a better friend. it might be something she could think about and change.
i am sorry but life is hectic and i just do not have the time to be with you as friends any longer i dont mean to hurt you please no hard feelings
first u should think about ur frnd and then of your heart don't hurt any loving ones if she is very sensitive than you should be very care full.but you have to say yours fillings but how that's depends on you.OK
Maybe the only thing you can do is just slowly distance yourself from her. Stop taking her calls, don't call her, make excuses why you can't get together.....It might take a while, but I don't know what else you could do that would spare her feelings.
Oh My! this is interesting because I'm going through the exact same thing, i have a friend that I've simply outgrown. In the beginning of our relationship it seemed that we had a lot in common, but as time progressed I was proven wrong. the way I broke apart from this clingy friend without too much controversy is i told her that i was unfulfilled and needed to find myself, which required A LOT of time to myself, not too much going out and not too much phone conversation. This works! I understand shes sensitive so dont cut her off at once--wing her off. Trust me, it works.
Kat! I am that girl you are talking about!! I can't believe u would write about me like this =[ i thought we were friends!!!!
Tell her husband. Let him know that since you are all grown up and married now that circumstances have changes. Tell him that you no longer have time to maintain a friendship with him and his wife because marriage has put a gap between the friendship you had when you were single. You want to devote your time to you family and don't see where your future plans have room for them in it any more. If he doesn't understand then just it go. You really do not need to give them any more of an explanation than that.

How can I convince my best friend to break up with her GF?

They are just not good for eachother, I have tryed telling her she should just leave her, infact all her friends tell her, eben her co-workers tell her. Her gf is 17 but acts like she is 12, and she knows it. Also alot of people hate her for acting like a little kid all the time (the gf not my friend). She acts like she doesn't care about anything and whenever you try to talk to her about anything she seems to not care, she even does this to my bestfriend who she is dating.





I know my bestfriend should just leave her, but how can make that 100% clear. I have told her to her face and she is like well, I don't want to break up with her, and yet she knows that they are not going to last. OMG so annoying!!!!!How can I convince my best friend to break up with her GF?
okay thats not your problem you already did your part and told her.but if she doesnt want to break up with her then you should just leave her be..if your really her true friend just let her be she will learn her own lesson one way or anotherHow can I convince my best friend to break up with her GF?
Just shoot her.

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you would sound controlling just let them break up when they get tired of each other if her girlfriend around don't hang out with her. you cant just tell someone to break up with their spouse and except them to do it. your friend sees past her girlfriend being annoying she dont care about that.
Why are you worried about this?


It's what your best friend wants and obviously she doesn't WANT to break up with her. I think you should just stay out of it hun.

How do I get my friend to break up with her boyfriend (Read first!!!)?

Okay, that sounds mean, but hear me out.





1. She's not allowed to date him


2. He did something bad, and she thinks he quit, but no one else does...


3. He's starting to get her in trouble with her parents because of #2


4. They hardly talk, and when they do it's through texting...


5. They're 14...





I've tried talking to her, but she thinks he's ';changed...'; I don't think he did...She's getting into a lot of trouble now because her parents found out about what he did and she's constantly upset...





I know you all will say I'm mean for trying to break them up, but she's my best friend...Help?How do I get my friend to break up with her boyfriend (Read first!!!)?
Tough situation. You can't break up people. She has to make her own decisions. All you *should* do is let her know you don't think he's right for her and you don't approve of the situations he's putting you in. Then you can either:





Let her know you'll be there for her when she's ready to leave him but you can't be there to watch her go down





or





Be there for here during the relationship until (hopefully) it crashes and burns





But don't try to break them up, just be supportive of HER and not the relationship.How do I get my friend to break up with her boyfriend (Read first!!!)?
look, tell that girl that she needds to go straite up to him and tell him, ';sorry. but its over'; and tell him why.
dont meddle into peoples relationships... things happen for a reason... she'll just have to find out things the hard way
why not introduce her to someone better
What you are doing is so not mean. You are trying to do the best for your friend. I like that one girls idea of introducing her to someone better. It would open her eyes to what her relationship with this guy doing the bad things compared to what she could have with the good guy.
That is life. What she wants to do is her business even if she is your best friend. The best you can do is watch over her, guide her, give her advice, give her support and always be there when she needs you.





She needs to learn this lesson the hard way. Sometimes there are lessons that they should go through. It is their choice and they will have no one to blame but themselves.





I know it must be difficult for you to just stand there and watch but that is how things must be. Do you want her to resent you for destroying something she considers important to her? If she finds out she will never understand why you did this to her.





Think it over. ^_^
wow. your in a hard position right now becasue ovbiously she really likes him, enough to not care what he does. maybe she only likes him for his looks... try to get it through her head that hes not the guy shes looking for. or you can try getting her to like someone else. and if that doesnt work than you can.... um... well thers nothing else u can do
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  • Should i break up with my friend for ever!?

    so my friend is really mean to me, but i cant let her go because i love her and i dont have that many friends, so i feel like i would be left lonely, its like a self-esteem problem. right now we are in a fight and dont talk to each other, she was really mean and rude when she told me she wanted to end things but her birthday is coming up and a friend told me i should send her a card or something but im not sure if i should, i feel that i shouldnt because she is really mean and friends shouldnt be like that to each other. so what do i do? how can i let her go 4ever?Should i break up with my friend for ever!?
    Get some guts and do the right thing.Should i break up with my friend for ever!?
    she is being mean and rude to you.. that doesnt say 'friends' to me!


    i no how u feel.. im confuzed and unsure of who my friends are at the moment too...


    either try make it up with her.. say sorry.. even if not u fault and see if she still wants to be friends! if not.. let her go!
    she is not a friend if she was really mean and rude when she told me she wanted to end things. i think she is a ***** (no offense) and you should find a another friend (im not trying to be a ***** i sound like that sometimes).
    Send her a card asking to talk to her and saying happy birthday. Then tell her you don't like the way she treats you and if she wants to stay friends with you she has to change that.
    if she's rude to you, don't hang around her... it doesn't matter if you don't have that many friends.If she's rude than she's actually not truly your friend...sorry but I think You shouldn't be friends anymore
    well... be the better person get her a small birthday card/present and tell how you feel, if that doesn't work do what your heart tells you. Say good bye for a little while, ( 4- 8 ) weeks. or until she apologizes to you.
    i suggest before you break away you try to make new friends and as you get closer to them slowly tare away from her
    YEa um i think so cuz no one likes to get disrespected. I think someone better will come along for you

    How to break up with a friend?

    My 'friend' is a nice person, but she can be overbearing and insane. She is often rude and doesn't realize she is being rude. She thinks she is being funny. She criticizes me for some things I do (like my love for country music, black people like country too!) She blows up my cell often calling 10+ times a day, she leaves me tons of messages on my facebook, even when I don't answer for days, she assumes she's more important than anything else, she insists i ditch my boyfriend simply because he is in jail (why would i do that?) she is unaccepting of my new friends (who are nice people) and she verbally attacks our mutual friends if they don't think and believe the exact same thing she does. I hate hanging out with her. She seriously does kill my spirit. She doesn't listen to me, she hears what she wants to hear. How exactly do I get rid of her? We've been friends nearly 4 years and i've always felt like this. Thanks!How to break up with a friend?
    It hard to imagine that you been friends for 4 yearss, I mean you 2 are absolutely different people and those don't become friends in the first place. Ussualy when I have a friend that is different we don't see eachover much and it's ok, or if there someone I don't like I just ignore him/her for a while and they get the point, but according to what you wrote she don't get it. Then it will be hard. Did you tryed ignoring her? Don't answer her calls and say you buse when she want to go out. Or talk with her directly but try not to hurt her feelings.How to break up with a friend?
    well, stop calling her. stop talking to her. don't reply to her.





    if she doesn't want to change and be nice then move on.
    Either tell her about it,


    or back away from the friendship.





    But you have '; mutual friends ';,


    so that will be hard to do.
    i think you should talk to her first... tell her everything you hate about her..


    and if she didn't listen to you tell her that it's better if you two shouldn't be friends anymore(the reason is:you two don't fit at each other)
    Well tells look at this from another stand point shall we............





    Ahh who am I kidding .Grab your things and... RUUUNNNN!!!!


    In fact leave em there ! Just RUUUNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!! : )LOL!jk!
    At least try and talk with her first, and give her a chance to change her ways... if not.. then you willl just have to avoid her..then maybe she will get the hint..

    How can i break up with this girl but still keep her as a friend?

    i was at a football game and this girl said that another girl liked me, and i said ok. but my friend goes up to the girl that likes me and told her i wanted to go out when i didnt. I just wanted to be friends with her but now it is all screwed up. I have known the girl though since preschool and i want her to be an option for highschool. WHAT CAN I DO TO BREAK UP WITH HER BUT KEEP HER AS A FRIEND AND NOT HURT HER FEELINGS. HELP I AM IN A CRISIS!!How can i break up with this girl but still keep her as a friend?
    Not a crisis, but admittedly a problem. Number one, you should tell your friend to mind his/her own business and stop trying to rule your life for you. You can ask your own girls out.


    Now, on to the problem. My best advice would be to be honest with this girl who now thinks she is your girlfriend. Tell her that you like her and even think she would be a great girlfriend, but that you don't want to have any girlfriends right now and would like to get to know her as a friend before you go further. If it doesn't seem to be going well, you can always add in the ';I respect you too much to rush into anything when I know we could be great together if we give our friendship more time.';


    Sometimes it doesn't matter what you say, as long as you say it well.How can i break up with this girl but still keep her as a friend?
    hmm...To be honest that's realy hard to do ... but it depends on what kind of girl your with i mean ... just tell her you don't feel that good being with her and u wish u guys can remain friend ... I heared that on dr.phil...
    Impossible. Sorry. The best thing do to is start to like her.
    what? ? ?
    You're a player.
    you should have never let it get that far. now she will hate you

    How should I convince a friend to break up with his gf?

    Ok so a friend of mine has a gf who he has emotions with but he is constantly being hurt by her. Every time they fight, she leaves and eventually comes back. They then start a relationship again and then break up again, the cycle just keeps going. She is his first love too, so i guess he is too inexperienced.





    All the other friends call him a ';sucker'; since the girl is only using him to comfort herself. So what advice can I give?How should I convince a friend to break up with his gf?
    You can tell him he deserves better than her. If he let's her go it will hurt for a little while, but it will be etter in the long run for him. Look out for him and let's say he doesn't listen to you and she comes back to him make him realize that she isn't the one for him. Slowly guide him to making the right choice. He may be stubborn and not listen, bit stay strong and be a good friend to himHow should I convince a friend to break up with his gf?
    ...no matter what happens in their relationship, just remember it is just that ';THEIR RELATIONSHIP';. Bottom line he's letting it go on and he's the only one that can choose to make it stop. You also should remember that there is a chance that he may be comfortable where he's at in his relationship as crazy as it may sound. All the advice/facts may not mean a thing to him. My advice, mind ya business unless the relationship is putting a hurting on your life overall. It's ok to be there to listen, but that's all ya need to do, because at this point you already know what's gonna happen. You asked *How should I convince a friend to break up with his gf*? YOU CAN'T... the GF level of power is much stronger than you right now
    i'd just let this happen on its own. interfering w/ close relationships can get ugly, %26amp; u don't want 2 B caught in the middle of a huge mess that u really shouldn't B in. if it were me i'd stay out of it
    Tell him to hit it or quit it.
    i think u should just say how u feel and hopefully it will get them thinking. i have the same issue right now with my friend. just tell them how u fell and maybe they'll break it up eventually
    Oh no, you must convince this poor guy! :(
    just live him alone


    and he will learn from his mistakes.
    well be there for him but its his choice what to do hopefully he can make the right won

    Will i ever be able to meet my ex as just a friend after the break-up?

    It is obvious now. My girlfriend wants to breakup completely. Instead of having a break-up discussion with me, she seemed to have opted for sudden avoidance of any contact with me. I still do love you. Last time i saw her was 5 months ago. I still feel that i want to find out some sort of reasons why she did all the hurtful things she did to me during our relationship of two years. It wasn't long i came to a realization why she not returning any response to my emails. How long will it take before she and i could meet and feel not like lovers but friends?Will i ever be able to meet my ex as just a friend after the break-up?
    Never. Give it up. She doesn't want to be friends, go find someone else who will treat you better. If you won't give it up, she could think you're a stalker and that would be very bad, for you.Will i ever be able to meet my ex as just a friend after the break-up?
    After you get anouther girlfriend and are no longer hurt by her actions. It takes a little while and even now I can be friends with my ex but really there is no need to be. Good Luck and Im sorry she couldnt be straight with you
    You are in the wrong forum. This is a computer technical forum.

    How do I convince my friend to break up with her boyfriend?

    Okay, well my best friend has this boyfriend that treats her like crap. He cheats on her, basically controls her whole life, and even pretends she doesn't exist. She complains to me all the time about how badly he treats her, yet she won't freaking break up with him! Oh, and if she finally does get the guts to break things off he comes running back saying he's sorry. Things are then good for a few days, but end up back to normal. Why are some people like this? I mean, he doesn't even care about her. He kissed another girl right in front of her before, yet she still wants to be with him. I hate seeing her get hurt like this.





    Ughh, what should I do? :(How do I convince my friend to break up with her boyfriend?
    The best you can do is to tell her to break it off if she is not happy and to stop falling back into this rut. If that doesn't work ask her if she truly believes that if he loves her would her be doing these things to hurt her. Also if she goes through with breaking up with him and he comes back saying sorry tell her to confront him and say I am done i am not dealing with this anymore.
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  • How to move on a break up with a friend?

    I have an officemate, we started as friends. I felt a special relationship with him and I think he also does later on. We kissed and according to him we are special friends and we're getting to a better relationship. He just have a family problem right now, and if I can wait, he just needs to think. After a week, I have decided that we just become friends again and forget about the special relationship. I thought I can stick to that but we became closer and kissed again (a passionate one). When I started to ask him, he said he thought we are just friends. I did not think about that since our actions does not match what we have agreed. But as we go along and tried to ask him, he started avoiding me. I can sense that he is avoiding me. One time I told him that it's difficult for me to leave him because I am beginning to love him. When I asked him, he did not answer. Until such time I texted him and just IM me saying sorry since he cannot give me his time. How can I move on?How to move on a break up with a friend?
    This has to be a concious decision on your part that you want nothing to do with him. It may even involve changing jobs, if seeing him at work is too painful. Involve yourself in other activities, meet new people or spend time with other friends or either genderHow to move on a break up with a friend?
    One day at a time. Keep busy, go out with friends or make plans with family. Find someone new...it's the easiest way to get over someone else.
    I know that what I am about to say is easier said then done, but you need to pick up the peices of your heart and atleast act like it doesn't even bother you. You need to go about your normal daily things and just smile at him at work or just don't even give him the pleasure of knowing that you know he still exists. Just remember even if it kills you on the inside don't let him see that...never,ever!!
    The question of moving on is to busy yourself in some productive work, I read ATLAS SHRUGGED it is a very nice book, may be you will find some answer to your question in that book, here is
    Crazy! I am going through the same thing! We stopped talking for two months. I have been heart broken. Once in awhile I would send him a text so that he wouldnt forget about me. Last Thursday he stopped at my work and asked me to go out Friday night. I had a great time. Even met his entire family. I am hoping things start picking up again. Good luck! IM me if you want to talk.
    I think you need to plan to move to another department or office with the company you are working for. If this is not possible then you maybe need to consider changing companies. Since he has evidently decided that the affair with you is over you need to accept that and go on. If you cannot work in the same office with him and move on then you need to get away from him. It sounds like you need to get away from him.

    I'm going to break up with a friend?

    i'm going to break it off with a friend in the next couple of days, and i'm wondering how i should go about it. i'm not looking to simply sever ties with this person, but the idea of an active friendship with them- calling each other, hanging out when possible- seems to be what i want to back away from for several reasons. i would love for them to convince me it's not a good idea, and i'm not 100% sure i want to be doing this, but i think i'm going to...how should i approach it, or should i ponder it more, or what?I'm going to break up with a friend?
    I have to ask a few questions first. Do you really know what you want to do? Your wanting this person to beg for your friendship? Does that make you a good friend? Would you want to beg someone to be their friend, I doubt it. I have found it best to be honest with the person. For whatever reason of ending a friendship they usually will understand and still be civil.I'm going to break up with a friend?
    don't do it yet. wait another week. then think about some more... why do you want to just drop this friend from your life anyway.
    it is ur choice what u want to do in life not anyone that on yahoo answers, if u do break up with ur friend but think u have made a mistake u may never get the chance to be friends again so i would think it over long and hard but like i say its ur choice not anybody elses.
    You want to end a friendship %26amp; :


    at the same time hope they will convince you that ending the friendship is not a good idea? or,


    that continuing the friendship is not a good idea?


    Either way, you might want to consider the following ...





    Good Friends--Bad Friends


    - The Need for High Moral Values


    - Sizing Up Potential Friends


    - The Most Important Things to Have in Common


    - Benefiting From Differences in Age


    - Improving Your Friendships


    - You Can Have True Friends


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    its a good thing u got friends.. some dont even have one. and ur breaking it???...think again dude...
    NO!!!! Don't do it. YOur Friend is your Life. Don't break your heart and your friend's. Please.

    How did I break up with my friends ex?

    well i started dating my friends ex, she broke up with him because he's going away to college and I fell for him. He is an amazing guy, but I've come to realize my friendship means more to me then my happiness for now. how do I break up with him without hurting him?How did I break up with my friends ex?
    tell him that the reason ur breaking up with him its besause the freindshiop means more to u then he does...but say it nicely..if u dont this dude is gonna think that ur using that as an excuse...lol trust me..so just be like ';hey your a great and cute n **** but my frindsship means alot more to me n ****.....How did I break up with my friends ex?
    Just go about explaining the situation to the guy. I'm pretty sure he'll understand.

    How to get my friend to break up with his miserable GF?

    My ex roommate but still current friend is dating a girl that nobody likes. She brings nothing to the table. She isnt funny, she steals peoples food and beer because she is broke. She wears alot of makeup which makes her look like a clown. She complains alot. She got angry because he wouldnt buy her cheese fries. She just shows up places. We put him up on match.com but cant afford the fee to subscribe. We hoped he would break up with her if we found him someone better. Any suggestions?How to get my friend to break up with his miserable GF?
    he'll eventually see the light. just dont put pressure on him to break up with her cause that wont do .sh.it. trust me i know. just support them for a while and he'll eventually see..in the meantime FIND him a great girl. invite just him out some nights to meet this new girlHow to get my friend to break up with his miserable GF?
    Mind your own business, or face the consequences.
    perhaps there's something about her that he likes, that you aren't seeing? Try and ask him why he likes her in the first place. maybe there is more to this girl than you're seeing.





    however, if it turns out he agrees that she's a total b^^^h then go ahead, and take him out places, preferably places with a lot of females, in an environment where mingling is encouraged.





    best of luck in any case.


    I hope I could help, at least a little. :)
    It's not your call. You can bring constructive criticism, but that's something HE has to do.
    Yeah, here is a suggestion. Mind your own damn business.
    Does your friend like his girlfriend? If he loves her, then let him be. It's his girlfriend, not yours. If she's that much of a problem (which I'll admit she sounds like a problem) to you guys then tell him about it and maybe you can all hang out with her a lot less or not at all. Maybe have it so only he hangs out with his girlfriend.
    Well I don't think you should be trying to break them up if he is happy with the relationship, you should be happy for him. There is no way to make him break up with her really though, he has to do it on his own. So just talk to him about what you see in her, how she treats him. Maybe just let him read this and he'll know how you feel.
    It really blows when you see a good friend of yours waste their time with a dead beat... and it blows even more when they drag that dead beat into your life, but there's nothing you can really do about it. Just let him know you don't like her, don't want to be around her, and hope he finds his own way and dumps her on his own.
    seems like you want your friend for more than a friend
    It's his girlfriend and it's his choice, you can't make that decision for him. If she is really that bad he'll figure it out when he's ready, just wait it out and try to be supportive of him.
    He wouldn't have to break up with her if she was dead. Just sayin'...
    offer something more, most of his type are there for the abuse
    if he is happy with her i would just leave it alone cause it could backfire but if he is unhappy just talk to him and take him out and help him find some else.
    Tell him that he can do better then her and there are much better girls out there for him, but if you ask me its not much your business, he might like her for some of those reasons
    Lay it out to him and make him realize who she is and that she isn't good for him.
    take some picture photo shop them her with another guy ( possibly some one he hates ) together then place them in an envelope and mail them to him
    Tell him how needy of a woman she is and that he deserves someone a lot better.

    How do you get a friend to break up with someone you hate without being rude, selfish, or evil?

    I used to be friends with this girl, Sam, who's currently going out with one of my best friends, Lou. Well Sam is currently a selfish attention whore (with a moustache) whom I hate to the grave and me and my friend Mike want Sam and Lou to break up so bad! Honestly I don't think that Lou even likes Sam and he just goes out with her so he can say to people ';I have a girlfriend';. I know the girl whom he actually has feelings for and its not Sam! How do me and Mike break the two up without being rude or making Lou angry?How do you get a friend to break up with someone you hate without being rude, selfish, or evil?
    you cant break people up without having some sort of proff the other person is doing something bad.....which you dont. Your friend could get mad at you and your friend for trying to break him up with his girlfriend. Just let it play out they will break up eventuallyHow do you get a friend to break up with someone you hate without being rude, selfish, or evil?
    You don't, and trying is all of those things you mentioned and more (that is, rude, selfish, and evil). When your friends are happy in their relationships, ';friendship'; dictates that you be happy for them, even if you don't particularly care for their choice in mates. Why? Because you recognize that it's their choice to make and not yours...that's called respect. One final thought: True hatred is a strong term and I suspect you probably didn't really mean all of that. Hate is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat. Hate destroys everything in its path, so choose your words carefully, especially ones you don't mean because they ALL have energy.
    Unless Sam is causing friction between you and Lou, its none of your dang business on how he conducts his life.


    You may not even know all that is going on between Lou and Sam...have you tried to ask Lou what he sees in her and why he still hangs with her?





    Maybe if you ask him, he may enlighten you on some things you had failed to notice.
    DONT GET INVOLVED IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LOVE LIFES! you would think that most people would know that. you are being selfish, rude and you would be being evil if you did that!

    How can i get my best guy friend to break up with his girlfriend?

    OK, so i have a guy friend, and i don't like him, but he's like a brother to me, and he has a girlfriend, but i don't really like her. So like he's a brother to me, i decided to be a big sister and try to make him and her girlfriend to break up. I know it sounds weird, but believe me, it's the best for him. The girl's a skank, a hoe, no offense to her of course. Even one of my friend is trying to help me make them break up because we don't like her. He's seriously too young, well, no he isn't, but hey! The guy kissed me! Eventhough he has a girlfriend! And that made me develop some feelings for him, eventhough I'm inlove with his best friend. Anyway....... all i want is some help, advise and tips to how to get rid of that little hoe, so if you can help me with my dilema, i will really really appreciate it! And i know i sound like a freak, but i don't like him, he's going to get in trouble if the word gts out that he's dating her, so i need to make them break up... fast!How can i get my best guy friend to break up with his girlfriend?
    Wow! this is a delema, I married my best guy friend and we now have 3 beautiful children, I know you want to make it clear that you ';dont like him'; I honestly think you do....otherwise it wouldn't matter to you that much,as long as he is happy with that ';hoe'; you should be too. Have you bothered to ask him? and girl if he kissed you theres something going on in his little head. Tell him how you really, but I mean really feel, about her, about him and about him kissing you. Last, give him another wet one...pow! right on the kisser lmol!


    =) BlessingsHow can i get my best guy friend to break up with his girlfriend?
    don't chase guys that have girlfriends, you won't get true love, all you get is breakups and revenge and what's the purpose to go 4 guys that u don't like,u don't date him 4 love, u really need to grow up
    If he really likes her there is nothing you can do to break them up, don't get involved because it could backfire on you and you may loose your best friend.
    You should mind your business and it seems like you like this kid, and why are you kissing guys that have gf and your calling her the hoe???
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    I have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend over two months ago, and it has teared her apart. She cries every night, puts on a smile while around everyone else but still isn't happy, and cries most of the time whenever she's alone. She was close to marrying this guy, and he randomly broke up with her one night. They've been dating for three years. She's been to counseling but it hasn't helped. She compared her break up to Bella's in Twilight, for comparison, and she's pretty much a duplicate of that break up. How can I help her?How to help a friend get over a terrible break up.?
    Honestly move her ***. Literally go do some compettive sport and get her involved in something. Like soccer or boxing or just some other random activity. Do it with a bunch of girls and no guys. Having any guys around that look like or act like her ex will just cause it to me more depressed.

    How can i get my friend to break up with he Any tips pleaser Boyfriend?

    So At school theres this guy that really like my friend and im tyrana hook him up with her, but she wont break up with her boyfriend,


    And i reaalyy want them to break up,


    (By the way she already no's this so its not like im doing it behind her back or anything lol)


    I love her so much, and yea i no i would want wants best for her, and i really dont like her boyrfriend that shes currently going out with.


    So PLLLLLLEEEEAAAAASEEEE


    ANY IDEASS???


    How do i make her breeak up with him?


    and how do i get the guy im trying to hook up get closer with her?


    Any tips please?


    thankss a buncchhh! :)How can i get my friend to break up with he Any tips pleaser Boyfriend?
    if your friends happy with her current boyfriend then just let her be.How can i get my friend to break up with he Any tips pleaser Boyfriend?
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    Don't do anything. I understand you care for your friend a lot, but it is not your place to tell her who she should and should not date. Let her go through this herself. When she feels it's right to leave her boyfriend, she will.
    sooooooooo baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad , what the hell are you trying to do ? Let yo friend do what she wanna do, this is funny :)
    You shouldnt try and make your friend break up with her boyfriend because she obv wants to be with him if she didnt wana be with him she wud have broken up with him alredy. personaly i would just let them be
    Let her decide what she wants to do.
    never gonna work
    If she really was your friend, you'd want her to be happy. If she's happy with her guy ... what is wrong with you?

    How To Get BEST Friend To BREAK UP With Me?? HELP?

    I recently started going out with my best guy friend. I love him a lot, but I just really don't want to date him. I really don't like breaking up with people because i don't know how they are going to react. I'd much rather them break up with me because I can take it. I can tell he isn't planning on ending it anytime soon, but if I just come out and say, ';I don't want to date you'; I doubt things will ever be the same. How can I get him to break up with me?How To Get BEST Friend To BREAK UP With Me?? HELP?
    either way, it wont be the same.


    you could ignore him for a week or so.. and then just come back friendly as all get out after he ends things, and try to repair what was.

    Helping a friend get over a break up. I need answers asap please?

    My friend just got dumped by his girlfriend and when he get's off work he is going to come over and to talk about it and be comforted. However, I am very bad with helping people with these kinds of things. When friends cry around me, I get awkward and don't know what to say or how to help. He is a very sensitive person. We are in college and his girlfriend went to another school so I don't personally know her or much about their relationship. Any advice for me?Helping a friend get over a break up. I need answers asap please?
    If he does cry, just rub him (in a comfortable place). Tell him to let it all out and say that you will always be there for him. Let him know, he still has you. Just treat him kindly and try to get his mind away from his girlfriend. Also tell him that he's a great person!Helping a friend get over a break up. I need answers asap please?
    Well you need to comfort him. Tell him that its not his fault, and that if anyone is stupid enough to break up with him, then shes not worth going out with. Focus a bit on this topic. Its true isn't it? Keep telling him that its ok and that there are plenty more girls out there. Telling them this (its not his fault, and that if anyone is stupid enough to break up with him, then shes not worth going out with) usually makes them feel better.
    listen to him. let him talk it all out, no matter what he says. comfort him, let him know you are there for him. let him talk about the negative things in the relationship, how it is better for him to be out of it. make him feel like it was a good thing that happened. long distance is tough, doesn't work out most of the time. he will find another. once you feel like he has said what he needed to say, help him move on. take him out, coffee, park, mall, bars, whatever you do for fun. get him interested in new things to get his mind off of it, show him that other girls will want to be with him, open that idea.


    main things; listen, focus on moving on, do things to get it off his mind, let him know there are other girls.


    but don't force it all too much, hit to the ideas, and let him form them as well. most of all, be there. you don't have to do much really.


    people crying can be weird to be around, i know, but listen and try to make him smile. that's what he needs most.
    From what you just said it sounds like your already doing what you need to, and by that I mean just being there for them. Don't worry about what to say just listen, let them do the talking it'll make them feel better and if you want to comfort them more try touching them, hugging or patting them, just gentle contact but word of advice, try to avoid cliche sayings like there plenty more fish in the sea or you'll get over it.





    Really they just need someone to talk too and all you need to do is just listen to them, they'll appreciate it more than you trying to interfere or fix things.
    Just listen to what he has to say and the responses will come off naturally. Think about what your going to say before you say it though, because trust me it can be a pain if you say the wrong thing.
    The best thing you can do is to LISTEN, and refrain from using cliches about how it wasn't meant to be, etc. Just use empathetic statements and let him know you'll still be there for him no matter how low he feels.

    How do you break up someone who really really likes you?

    There's this guy that asked me out on Feb 19th and we both liked each other but around then end of the 1st week i didn't like him as a boy friend anymore, and his friends and we were talking about it in ILA and his friend Austin and said ';He's gonna break up with you'; and i was kinda like phew at least were on the same page and then his friend Hannah (His Ex-Girlfriend) said ';No way!! He is totally obsessed with you'; and i was like darn it!! i was hoping this would be easy =/.





    So what is a good way to break up with him? I wanna stay friends with him because i like our friendship but not our love relationship. And the thing is I'm a VERY VERY shy and caring person like in my last relationship i didn't wanna break up with my other boyfriend because we had been friends since like 4th grade and i didn't want to to hurt his feelings. But we still were friends and he STILL likes me, whoops getting off track a little bit there anyway back on track the thing is about me I'm not the type to break up my friend broke me and my old boyfriend up for me i told her i wasn't feeling it with him and the next day BAM! she just told him flat out no sympathy at all and i could NEVER do that especially to a good friend, and i felt so bad for him because then at the end of a day he gave me a letter saying ';Roses are red, Violets are blue, i would die without you'; and walked off all sad with his head held down lower than I've ever seen him walk with his head low.





    So i had this one idea since there is a new trimester coming up in like 5 days i thought i would give it till Monday see how many classes we have together and if none I'm going to wait a week to see if he breaks it off and if not I'm going to summon the courage to do it over Face Book and say something like this '; Hey (Name) you know how when we started dating Feb 19th and we both liked one another? Well the thing is, I'm not really feeling the way i did on Feb 19th. %26amp; take it from there.


    Do you guys think it will work? Yes? No? Maybe so? ANY help or ideas will be very much appreciated


    ~Kaitlyn~How do you break up someone who really really likes you?
    No never break up with someone in facebook. You'll hurt him just tell him that you didn't like him as a bf that you rather having him as a friend do it as soon as you can or it'll be worse cause he'll fall for you more and more but face him

    A messed up friend or more problem?

    I'm 18, and I've only had 1 serious boyfriend. we split up in July. I was really upset after the break-up, and to make things worse, I had to leave home for the first time and live away in August. I found things very hard to handle back then, and I turned to a male friend. We became very very close, closer than I ever meant to.


    I ended up falling for him. I thought he liked me too...I was going to tell him how I felt on Halloween night but he then told me that he really liked my best friend. Shes gorgeous and alwaus gets all the guys i like. She treats him badly, theyre not close like we are. But he still likes her. So I kept my mouth shut.


    Until one night I got drunk and told him how I felt...Turns out he likes me too. But not as much as he likes my friend. Weve held hands and we talk every single day, we 100% open and honest. ive never had that before, neither has he. But when we get close I feel I have to pull away. I clam up. I don't want him to be with me if he really wants myA messed up friend or more problem?
    you are torturing yourself. let go and try to seek out something being, outside activities, another close friend to occupy you, anything that will help you heal. he's playing you and you are definitely being a soft touch. get strong girl! you have a lot to offer the right person.





    good luckA messed up friend or more problem?
    Spare yourself the hurt, leave him alone.
    make him prove to you who he really wants to be with and then go from there, if it turns out he really wants you then you have nothing to worry about
    that sounds bad....that he likes your friend more. I say move on, because you'll always have those bad feelings in the back of your mind. And thats not good...besides, you might just be better off as friends :)
    I know you don't want to hear this, but why would you want someone that doesn't completetly want you? If he doesn't make up his mind soon, you should think about just being friends. Maybe he'll come to his senses once he realizes that you and him have a stronger bond. If you're willing to wait for him, give it a try. If not, just be there for him and maybe he'll eventually fall in love with you. Good luck!
    This is unclear. Is your MaybeBF actually dating your so called ';best Friend';? Are they in a relationship? If this is the case, why are you betraying your ';best Friend';? If he is seeing her then you need to back off and move on. If he was serious about you then you wouldnt even be asking these questions. I believe you are his standbye girl, just in case and a shoulder to whine on. You say he is not a player, but sweety you are being played. Either he wants you or he doesnt, and it doesnt sound like to me he wants you as a real girlfriend. You deserve better I think. You sound like a bright woman, dont let yourself down with this.(unless you are just enjoying the drama and trauma)
    im confused about the other girl, if they are dating, you have to back off and wait your turn.





    if they are not dating, then he is afraid to try anything with you because of that problem you women have with guy friends. you treat us like we are gay. he does not want to get involved with you only to have you break up because you dont see him that way. this is a genetic defect that women are born with. they wont date guys they like.


    so, if you really want him. if you are not going to just screw him up because he was nice to you and dump him for a loser like women always do, tell him you really want him as a boyfriend. tell him how you really feel. then tell him you cant do anything with him as long as he wants the other girl. if he ever gets over her, you want him.





    but please, dont play games with the poor guy. if you only want him because he wants your friend, get a cat.
    i know this is tough to hear, and do.





    but if you truly care about this person.. u gotta be willing to let him go. u know why??? Cuz he needs to figure out what he wants. and he can't do that if you're there ';just in case'; it doesn't work out w/ that other girl.





    what u need to do is tell him u care about him, but u can't be a close person in his life anymore if he doesn't know what he wants. cuz it's tearing u up, and if he cares about your health, he needs to understand that too. so Let him go. don't contact him, dont talk to him much and dont hang out w/ him.





    that part is really hard. i know. but the reason u are doing this is to see if he misses you enough to realize that he WANTS YOU, and only you.





    see, if u let cut him off.... he either will 1) realize how he feels about you beg you back ; or 2) go for that other girl, or some other girl, but not contact you, which means that he wasn't willing to work for the relationship anyways.





    does that make sense? u need someone who is willing to work with you thru things. this is a test for him to learn how he feels, you are pushing him to figure out how he feels. trust me when i say, if u stay there No matter what, he will think less of you cuz he doesn't have to work hard at all for u to stay there.
    he sounds like a player
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    My friend has been in a relationship with this girl for 6 months now. It's surprising to everyone how they have been together for so long. My friend's girlfriend is a wreck. Like a freakin trainwreck. She has a bipolar disorder where she has sudden changes in her moods. She can get really excited at certain moments, and get really depressed at others. She also takes meds for her condition. My friend and this girl have nothing in common, she constantly embarasses him by saying things that do not need to be said. Such as what they have done in bed and how they act when they are alone. She is an ';attention whore'; so she will do or say whatever she needs to if she loses my friends attention for whatever random period of time it is, usually short. This can happen when the conversation doesn't involve her, or were playing video games. She has no job and doesnt go to school when my friend is very intelligent and is out to achieve goals. She has no ambition and even told me that she wants to have his kids and make it through life through him. This girl has been engaged to 4 times previously and used to be a former alcoholic. She openly admitted this randomly. I believe she asked the other guys she was with in the past to engage to her. She even wanted to get engaged to my friend after being with him for one month. Luckily, they are not engaged anymore. She is only 21 and that is nuts. She constantly puts him and his friends (including me) in awkward situations and its gotten to the point where i am fed up with it. She has even tried to commit suicide because she got so depressed one day and my friends had to stop her. 3 months ago i told them that they need to break up but im surprised my friend didnt listen to me. The only thing that i can say thats good is that she is attractive. My friend also sacrificed many friends just to stay in this relationship with her and its not worth it. He has even not hung out with me before in the past because she simply said ';no you cant.'; Let me also mention that this is his first girlfriend by the way. My only guess is that he wants to drag this relationship out and be her ';knight and shining armor.'; I hope my friend doesn't lack confidence and believes ';shes the best i can do';. They are about to get an apartment together and my friend is mainly paying for it. I don't know what to do. Sorry this is long haha, but what do i do?How do i convince my friend to break up with his girlfriend? Help!?
    I have to agree with the others. It's not your relationship, but your friends. he will have to learn from his experience - hopefully things work out for the best for him - albeit with or without this girl in his life. Be supportive of him, still remain his friend and don't desert him. How do i convince my friend to break up with his girlfriend? Help!?
    i think that you should stay out of it.. let your friend realize that the relationship is no good. because it is not up to you anyway.
    Nothing you can do. Your friend knows all this and is still going out with her. He likes her for whatever reason.
    Your friend is what they call P*ssy struck.


    He's finally gettin' some for the first time and he is not going to give that up for anything.



    How about hooking me up with tha crazy chick she sounds like a hand full.
    I think you should step back and mind your own business.. Its his choice. not yours
    Take him out and get him laid! She sounds like she is nuttier than a fruitcake but as long as your friend and her are sleeping together you don't ahve a chance to break them up. He needs a distraction and nothing distracts the male mind more than another female!!
    You have to stay out of it the best way you can, my ex bf friend had the same problem and I think that because he started getting too involved with trying to brake them up, that it messed up him and his friend friendship, his friend and his girl are still together after 9 years, tons of fights, the police being called and him being arrested more than once, and not to mention it was his friend who bailing him out of jail, just stay out of it, they have to get tired of each other.

    What are some good wats to break up with your girl friend?

    I have been with this girl for a year and a couple months now, and I keep catching her doing thing that she knows I wouldent let her do. So now I am getting sick or it and I want to leave her. And on top of that I found another girl that is like a MILLION tymes better than her. But I just dont know how to break up with my existing girl, but I still have feelings for her.


    PLEASE HELP ME%26lt; AND STAYING WITH HER IS NOT AN OPTION.What are some good wats to break up with your girl friend?
    Things you wouldn't let her do? Like what? You sound like a control freak. I hope that your girlfriend and this other girl realize that you are a jerk and both never talk to you again.What are some good wats to break up with your girl friend?
    i'm sorry baby...i love you...but just not in that way....how do i say this....i'm gay





    then kiss your best friend
    well if your not happy then leave and if she keeps doing things that make you upset then you have a right to leave and if theres someone better then her then so be it just tell hey u and i have been going out for a year and you do things that i wouldnt do to you and i dont like that we need to take are seperate ways ! thats all you have to say and trust me it will be hard but if your not happy then move on ! i hope this works! and your feelings will always be there for her so thats going to be alittle harder too!
    just say it. no better way

    This may sound a little weird! but i need your help to try to get my guy friend to break up with his girlfrind

    My best guy friend named corbin is going through a really tough time right now... and me and my friend think that he would be better off without his girlfriend taylor, because she is a back stabber and just a few weeks ago he broke up with a girl, that was a serious witch to him and he had a tough time gettin over her, but now he has a worse girlfriend and he does not like her but i need to think of a poem to give to him to show that i care about him and give him some advice to break up with her! if you could get on a web site and find a good peom can u please let me know where yuo found it or what the poem says! and i kind of want the poem to sty how she does not like corbin for who he is she wants him because of his looks which is not right!! if you could please help me i would really appreciate it and so would he! thank you for you time i appreciate it! thanks againThis may sound a little weird! but i need your help to try to get my guy friend to break up with his girlfrind
    It is not your business who he may chose to date. If you are interested in him, tell him. It is better than sitting back and being jealous.This may sound a little weird! but i need your help to try to get my guy friend to break up with his girlfrind
    Well first of all dont write him a poem, it will just seem cheesy and that you cant take things like this seriously. If he's really just your friend, than you should feel comfortable enough to speak your mind to him. Explain to him in a way that won't hurt his feelings (and end your friendship).

    Messed up friend situation?

    hi, i really need advice but its heres the outline of the story, please read





    i had this best friend, girl. we were the best of friends. her boyfriend was a right tosser. he always made her cry, dumped her and got back with her, made her cry again, publically embaras her.





    she told me that she wanted someone who would be nice to her all the time (at this point they were on their 4th breakup).





    me and the boyfriend became friends, he told me he was cheating on her. i went and told her, with evidence. she stopped talking to me.





    a few weeks later, i get a phone call saying ';how i lied. im going to hit you when i see you. you bullshitted';.





    the best friend said i dotn want to speak to you anymore because i lied to break them to up. i was shocked.





    a few more weeks later, he tried attacking me but my friend stopped it.





    now, i know i didnt lie and i tried to open her eyes because i didnt want to see her upset! theyve broken up again.





    what should i do because she is going around tell people, i got a bad name thanks to that slut!Messed up friend situation?
    get her to leave him. if she's gonna make a total mess just because you were showing her the light and she was blinded by it, then leave her. besides if she doesn't want him then at least she should stick with you till' she finds someone else. she will be sorry. she'll come back saying sorry. if she doesn't she's probably thinking and weeping about her past and what she should've done. help her make the right choice!Messed up friend situation?
    Forget about her, find a new best friend. She'll realize she made a mistake.
    honestly, let it ride. You did the right thing and time is on your side. Your friend will come around soon enough.
    Wow. Your friend should just give up on that boy. Say thats what he told you and that you were trying to help. And if she says you broke them up remind her, they broke up more than 4 times already. If she cries I guess you should let her but dont feel bad for saying that because you try to help her but she wont listen. If not, apologize and ask her how did you break them up. Because he told you and you told her with EVIDENCE. If you get into a argument put up a good fight if shes listening because even if she gets mad, she'll probably start understanding and realizsing what you were trying to tell her. Heck maybe tell her, ';would you rather date him, not knowing he was cheating on you?'; Just stick up for yourself because friends should listen and trust each other.
    I dunno if her boyfriend's word is worth more to her than yours or if you've some other way proved untrustworthy, but the bottom line is that this girl is important to you and she doesn't even trust you. !@#% her. If she won't listen to reason then just let her get cheated on more and more from this dude or whoever. One day she'll realize that all along you were the only one who truly cared about her and at that point you get to tell her to !@#$% off. She had her chance.

    How do you ';break up'; with a bad friend?

    I have a ';friend'; who ive known for almost three years now and tired of him always coming over to hang out. He's not a really good friend, pretty selfish and is only around you when its convenient and when he has nothing better to do which, unfortunately, is often. Im a student, and i feel like my chill time is really important, not meant to be arguing over stupid things and getting irritated. How do i ';break up'; this friendship and without seeming like a jerk?





    P.S. my other buddys like him but i don't want to ruin my friendships with themHow do you ';break up'; with a bad friend?
    I know how you feel man, this happened to me just a few months ago.





    The best thing to do to not seem weird or completely mean is to just not invite him over anymore. Don't call him. Don't text him. Ignore his calls. Ignore his texts, unless its something extremely important. You can still casually talk to him at school or wherever you see him in public, but if he asks to hang out then just say you've got a lot of stuff or homework to do, or you've already made plans, and then lie. You may feel bad doing it but in the end it's what's best for you if he is causing you unnecessary stress.How do you ';break up'; with a bad friend?
    Does he show up unannounced? If so, tell him you need him to call before he comes over. This way, you can stop the visits on the phone by telling him it's not a good time. If he disrespects this and still shows up, tell him at the door.





    Because he's friends with your other friends, it would be difficult to just break the relationship off completely.
    man thats tough if your other friends like him. i wouldn't try to ';break up'; with him per say but rather try and distance yourself from him. if you know him pretty well then think of stuff he doesnt like and whenever he calls you or anything when your alone try to make sure you say your doing that kinda stuff. if your with other people you could suggest to do stuff that he doesnt like, but you have to like it. otherwise people will know something is up if all of a sudden you want to go to the ballet or something weird.
    send him over to your other buddies when he comes over

    My best friend is breaking up with her boyfriend soon?

    He has to go away for 2 years, so they are going to be breaking up in January. She tries to hide it, but I know that she is getting more freaked out with every month. I'm also freaked out, because I don't know how I'll comfort her when it happens. I've never dealt with a bad break up myself so I don't have the experience. When the time comes, what should I do? They've been together for about 3 years now.My best friend is breaking up with her boyfriend soon?
    .Not necessarily breaking up Karen.Only a different aspect to the relationship.LDRs aren't normally successful but that's based on unknown factors.However these two aren't strangers or ships in the night.They know each otherMy best friend is breaking up with her boyfriend soon?
    if they know that they're going to be breaking up anyways in 6 months, they should be easing themselves out of it now......that way there should be no shock or surprise.
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  • How to stop angry girls from beating up my friend, for breaking another girl's heart?

    One of my close friends broke up with his girlfriend, he had been trying to get her to break up with him for a month so he lost it and broke up with her. But when he did it he was mad and he said the coldest, harshest and meanest things like ';you waste of a human being'; to ';you worthless piece of sh*t'; and worse. In conclusion she cried the hole day at school so her best friend got really mad and her and more girls are going to jump my friend. She told him before they dated ';you brake her heart, I break your face';. My friend didt care but his getting worried now, I told him that his retarded and its his fault, but I still got to help him some way. So yeah how to stop angry girls or should I let him get jumped for what he did?





    I mean he kind of deserves it, anyways how bad can can they hurt him? But atleast I got to try to help him.How to stop angry girls from beating up my friend, for breaking another girl's heart?
    Tell him that if he can't do the time, he shouldn't do the crime. You can try to protect him, but it's doubtful that you'll be able to be vigilante enough. All it takes is a short amount of time when he's left alone.





    If he's really scared of what they're going to do to him, he can either attempt to mend things up with his ex or he can be a man and deal with the consequences.





    And if he's still scared, you can buy him a cup (see below).How to stop angry girls from beating up my friend, for breaking another girl's heart?
    LOL.. you as a friend need to step out of his personal life...


    do not get involved unless you want to be thrashed yourself.


    your so called friend is a mean A hole.. who is going to get what he deserves.


    he was warned before this whole thing started.. so you need to also understand that.


    dont protect someone who is horrible.. its just ill manner..


    lucky he is not gettin beat up by guys.. cuz they would realy tear him up.
    you can't stop an angry mob of girls from beating a jerk like your friend. sorry theres nothing you can do
    its his fault for shouting and calling her names.

    How do you know it is time to break up with a friend?

    when they don't think you are important anymore.


    when they don't respect you anymore.


    and when you ask for help, they run away.


    when you find their presense plain annoying.





    if you wanna test whether this is true breakup,


    tell them what is wrong and if it doesn't work... you wouldn't waste more time and energy on it would you?How do you know it is time to break up with a friend?
    at the moment. she's avoiding me. no eye contact even if i sit behind her. so... time will tell but i'm not wasting my energy and am letting go.

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    How do you know it is time to break up with a friend?
    There is no trust left and it is not a 50/50 give and take, but the main issue is TRUST
    by checking the status of your friendship
    When suddenly you become the ';in case of emergency'; guy, where they have to depend on you to take care of THEIR business. When they are no longer the person that's your hang out buddy, stress relief, and human diary, and more just a burden or hurtful. It's when suddenly you become only good for whatever THEY need, and never about just being there WITH you. Normally those are the times you need to kick em to the curb.
    When you dont trust them.
    when they are not friendly anymore
    when you want to spend free time and try to find excuses:-)
    you know that time





    communication is lost or stopped


    attention is else where
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    well it's hard to tell but if your friend is lieing to you or just plain rude has an attitude problem or she uses you any thing that's not right it's time to break up with your friend. what did your friend do any ways?


    y do you want to break up a friendship with her?
    when theres no more respect and you feel your being used.
    Thats a good question most people dont think of.





    Its time to dump a friend when they get to the point where all they do is cause you problems. Even if you love them, if they make your life harder and EVER make you feel bad about yourself, get rid of them.


    Dont be afraid to let friends go, when they say you can never have enough, they mean GOOD friends that are fun and never make you unhappy.
    When you have to ask yourself this question.
    when u tried to avoid him/her without a reason.....
    I dont believe that all friendships have to end. If you are in a certain point in your life and your friend is at a certain point in their lives, then you can just be distannt friends

    Is this how an Aries acts after a break up?

    I like an aries guy friend (who broke up with a long time g/f). He would send me mixed signals: nice and affectionate one day and seems to like me and always look at me, then apathetic and flirting with everyone but me the next day. He had a hard time after the break up and said he would be more himself when I see him this fall. Is this typical Aries behavior?Is this how an Aries acts after a break up?
    aries cant decide what they want. they are cold but deep inside if he really cares it does hurt them. aries are selfish and can hurt someone elses feeling quick, even if he does not mean it or intend to do so. they do things without even noticing it can hurt others and they act like nothing happened, thats their nature. the best way to act with an aries is if you act like you dont care about them and they will wonder and ask later on, and thats when you tell them you are hurt, but it seems like they are too busy loving themselves that they dotn notice you. aries are flirts like geminis, thats the way they are and if you try to take it away, they will feel offended. so just, flirt yourself and act like nothing, dont do whatever they say, do the opposite of what aries say to you and he will look for you. they love competition and hard to get.Is this how an Aries acts after a break up?
    Yes, my brother recently broke up with his long time girlfriend a couple of months ago and his ego is hurt. Badly. And so he is taking as much advantage of any person who is willing to stroke his ego and something else while they are it. He was just a mess the first month yet now he is making his ex beg for them to return together and is doing all this bunch of things to make himself feel better, to feel like a man again I suppose. Those are Fire signs for you, just great.





    Maybe after he is done healing his ego he will start acting like himself again. Who knows, I don't think it is fair for you to have to wait. That's not cool but it is up to you to decide what you want and how bad you want it. Good luck.
    I dunno,but I think he is experiencing mixed emotions and so he is sending mixed signals


    he probably needs a break after that g/f


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    Yeh but aries can be manipulators so dont get taken for granted and just be cautious. They are also leaders so you will find out if he likes you or not.
    yeah, but watch out

    How do you break up with a friend?

    A girl I've been friends with for over 5 years and has been my best friend for over 3 has become a completely different person. She yells and cusses out my other friends and makes fun of my friend that is special needs. She trys to act like she knows everything and is better than everyone else. I've tried avoiding her but it just makes her call/text/email me more. She also recently came out as ';bi-curious'; which didn't bother me I have a lot of friends that are gay/lesbian/bi, but then she started acting like we are dating. I have a boyfriend and I'm straight. She left me a voice mail yesterday telling me how much she loved me. How do I deal with this? I've never had to do anything like this before.How do you break up with a friend?
    just tell her that you dont want to be her friends no more and you have your reasons for it...and if she asks you what are they then just tell her what they are shes not gonna like it but what can you do...How do you break up with a friend?
    tell her taht if she dont leave u alone that u will call a restaning order on her just to see what she does. if she leaves then u should be happy but if she keeps at it then make a restaning order and have someone give it to her. so she gets it.
    If you cant tell her how you feel.


    Then just slowley drift away from her.


    Or just dont answer her completley.
    Stace- you REALLY need to talk your friend-NOW!!! It seems like she has had these feelings for a while. Let her know now that you don't see her that way.
    say im not ur friend any more sorry but i just need u to go away i dont hate u but right now i really dislike u sorry but im not ur friend that pretty much all

    How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?

    My friend has a boyfriend, he is rude. I tell her to break up with him. She just thinks he is so perfect, even though he calls her a nerd, loser, drew on her with a marker all over her favorite jacket, and said she is okay looking. I try telling her he is not right but she just doesn't listen. What should I do? What could I say to convince her he is the wrong person for her, and that she should break up with him?How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?
    Don't tell her what to do, she'll probably get defensive.





    I don't like my friend's bf and she knows it. Now she just never talks to me about him. She definitely never tells me when they fight because she thinks that i'll just use it against him.





    You could do this:


    Do you have a bf or a crush? Tell her you want her help in deciding if he's a good guy. If no crush right now, just pick a guy %26amp; pretend you like him.


    You should ask her if she'll help you write a list of all the positive qualities a boyfriend should have. Tell her you want it for YOUR benefit, that way she doesn't try to defend her bf.





    Then write a list about all the qualities you should try to avoid in a guy. Never bring up her bf in this discussion.





    This will help her think about the bad things her bf is doing on her own.





    then you should say, ';Lets circle everything that applies to our bf's. We should circle things about each other's bf too (or your crush)!.'; Make this a game %26amp; like you're doing it just for fun. Use different colored pens and count up the positive %26amp; negative qualities %26amp; compare.





    OR:





    Sit her down %26amp; tell her this is the last time you'll talk about her bf, and that you want a honest %26amp; open conversation.Tell her that after this you'll support her because you care more about being a close friend she can confide in than who she's dating (%26amp; I hope you do feel this way). Tell her that you don't know her bf like she does. You're just looking out for her because you want her to be happy. say you want to know the positives





    Ask her if she is happy, and tell her to really think about this.


    Ask her what about him makes her happy, and get specific qualities %26amp; actions he does. Tell her that you want to like him, and this will help you see the good qualities of him.


    Ask her how she feels when he calls her names and if this effects her self esteem - does she take him seriously %26amp; then think she is a nerd/loser? Say that this would hurt you, %26amp; that's why you're worried it hurts her.


    Ask how she felt when he drew on her jacket. Ask her why she thinks he did this.





    In this conversation, NEVER say that you are against her bf %26amp; how you feel. Instead just ask how she feels about different things about him. Ask questions designed to make her think about how he makes her feel.





    The goal in life is to find happiness. Just make sure she is happy. Support her no matter what her decision and make sure she feels comfortable to confide in you. Try not to judge.





    *Nothing you say can make your friend see things differently. She's going to have to figure this out on her own.





    My %26amp; my best friend don't like each other's bfs. It has hurt our relationship so much because we're defensive. I can never confide in her when me %26amp; my bf argue because she'll see it as evidence against him, and I can tell by her reaction. I feel like I constantly have to act like our relationship is perfect, %26amp; it sucks. . . Likewise, she does not confide in me about her relationship at all. I find out from a mutual friend when he's mean. Also, now, our bfs hate each other and so when we hang out, only 1 of them can be there.





    *********If she stays with this guy, DO YOU WANT TO REMAIN FRIENDS %26amp; have a good relationship? If so, you are just going to have to accept things %26amp; be happy for her. Is it really worth it to ruin your friendship over a loser? I hope your realize you're too good for that. You are going to have to try to keep your mouth shut. It's hard, good friends are supposed to support each other no matter what.How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?
    It's none of you're business, you need to understand that different people have different opinions and are looking for different things. What you see as being negative, she may see in a different light. You need to let her decide what is best, because you can never truly understand the relationship as well as she does. There is nothing that you can say to convince someone that what they feel is wrong, and you would be wrong to even try.





    Good luck.
    Well, maybe the boyfriend is only saying those words as a sign of his affection to her. Yeah, maybe they might not sound like the sweetest or kindest words, but everyone has their own ways of showing it. And your friend doesn't mind it probably because she knows him that well that it's who he truely is.





    And I think you shouldn't do anything. Just let things go and if he really was wrong for her then let it be a lesson for her. Knowing that you have convinced her before will make her realize how you were right.





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    Give her an outsider point of view


    tell her you're thinking about going out with a guy, but he has a few ';flaws';


    like he says you're not pretty,


    he messes up all your stuff,


    and he calls you a loser all the time, but YOU think he's dreamy..


    ask her what she thinks of him


    she'll says ';he sounds like a jerk! why would you want to go with HIM?!';


    then you say


    ';i just described you're bf...think about it';
    of course you being a good friend, youre gonna tell her all the bad things about him


    her sounds like a real jerk to be honest


    but she has to realize that on her own


    no matter what you say, she has to figure it out herself


    its not because shes not listening, its just that she wont get it until she finally makes the connection


    hope this helps!
    I know you are looking out for your friend and stuff but hun, you will have to let her learn. Talk to her one more time and if she doesn't believe you or whatever, say ';ok'; and then just leave. Leave it at that and don't bring it up unless she does first, if something goes wrong.
    If you work out how, tell me. I know a girl thats been going with a guy for 4 years, the first 3 were ok, but now he just sleeps with anyone he can get his hands on, she knows it, but she 'loves' him so she wont break up with him.
    sadly there is nothing you can do really and pretty soon she will let get annoyed and mad at you for keeping on her case the best thing to do is to ignore it and wait for her to realize she's really stupid to date assholes
    According to alot of the answers on here.





    It's safe to say that girls want to be treated like **** because nice people aren't good for healthy relationships





    Dysfunctional ones are proffered more
    You should let them get married and let them realize their own mistake.
    You have to let her learn from her own mistakes and not play parent.
    just let her go with him. she'll figure out soon enough that hes an ***.
    tell her that he says all those things because he does not love her!
    he's a real mother, and she need to dump his shisty @SS
    catch him cheating


    other than that let her be happy
    Hey i know this one, it worked for me, have a lot of friends with you and all of you try to convince her to break up with him cause he's a jerk and is SO NOT right for her.. tell her how would it feel when she grows up, she'll be beaten by him, and threatned, cause you know boys that are rude and mean at this age can get worse anytime in the future, tell her that how would she risk her life then, so she should listen to you cause you are so right! tell her you dont wanna see her get hurt by him, and stuff, and what if he tries to do bad things to her and hurt her in the future.. have a lot of your friends gather up and convince her this. break up he's not right! tell her if HE says she's not pretty, and calls her bad stuff like a loser, nerd.. and so on, and those things like that he doesn't truly like her and she'll figure out what mistake she's made.





    :}





    good luck, you seem like an amazing friend..


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    How to break up with my friend?

    I used to be really good friends with this girl. We had our baby at the same time and we became really tight. She started being really wild and out there so I stopped talking to her. A few years passed and I don't know why, but I thought about her and looked her up and we just started talking again. I thought that since we are older that she would be more mature and not into drama. She is even worse than before and I don't really want to talk to her anymore. The thing is how do I end our friendship after only a week when I'm the one who looked for her and she doesn't have any real friends and she's not doing so well. I don't want to ignore her calls and make her feel worse than what she is, but I don't want to deal with the immaturity anymore. Any good/nice ways to end our friendship?How to break up with my friend?
    Maybe you could be the positve person in her life. It sounds like she doesn't have anyone positive in her life.How to break up with my friend?
    this ones easy you tell her you tried to make ammends for the reason of why you broke up the friendship. and that you reckonized that nothing has changed and your lifestyle is different and for you and her need to tend to other important issues and split ways on the path of friendship. Tell her you have a child and its getting older and you dont want to have any more stress and bad influences around or in the sanctiy of your home. tell her you care about her but theirs just some guidlines you have to follow in the sake of the peace of your home for your child. if she is open minded she will understand to either wake up and smell the coffee or continue to dwell in a downward spiral that goes nowhere but down and that the example she leads her child into will be negative and nonfruitfull
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  • How to help a guy friend get over a break up... guys help please!?

    My best friend just broke up with his gf of 4 yrs (she was cheating on him) I don't know how to comfort him since I moved to another state.. I was thinking of sending him a box full of silly stuff, just to him him laugh n feel better..


    Here is where I need help, guys what would u like that would lift ur spirits.. guy stuff?


    He's my best friend,it breaks my heart to see him like this :(How to help a guy friend get over a break up... guys help please!?
    Send him some nudey pics.





    Really.How to help a guy friend get over a break up... guys help please!?
    Thats almost impossible.Time is the only thing that will help that.


    But if you can go to a store and get him an outfit , cologne, and have a female pick all of this out, and have him go out one day to use all this stuff.He might get unusual attention which might help speed it up.
    O.. big problem huh? Ok here's the way... Send him some emails which has a lot of funny stuff which represents smiles all over the email.. Make the whole page full of something very nice, interesting for boys, and especially very funny.. Or, you should visit him sometimes.. :) Do u have a bf? If u don't, and couldn't find 1 bf, ask him to be your bf then.. It will be great :)
    idk


    it depends how old you are you could go down and see him...


    or you could like send him a cad or something
    Yea to be REAL honest with you ask him 2 visit you or you visit him and well give him a free bee at you.
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    Quotes to help friend during break up.?

    Hey, im looking for some quotes to help a friend deal with breaking up with her first love/long term boyfriend. The quotes can be about how beautiful she is, how she doesnt need a man, about friendship etc





    Thanks! xxQuotes to help friend during break up.?
    Be stong for now


    Because things will get better


    it might be stormy now


    But it can't rain forever.





    Behind ever beautiful girl there's a dumb*** guy who did her wrong and made her strong.





    What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.





    God only give us what he knows we can handle.





    I can't think of any real good ones or find any real good ones sorry. Most of these are on my myspace page from myhotcomments. You sound like a great friend though just be there for her.





    Quotes to help friend during break up.?
    this ste has quotes about friends friendship etc.,.


    and here aresome from elsewhere :





    ';Then come wild weather,


    come sleet or come snow,


    we will stand by each other


    however it blows.';





    ';Through all kinds of weather,


    what if the sky should fall down,


    Just as long as we are together


    IT DOESNT MATTER AT ALL!!!!






    you are a good friend!





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    i don't know which ones are applicable but you can check them out






    ';No man is worth your tears and the One who is,


    Won't make you cry.';


    Give her a hug from me.
    Listen to James Taylor's ';You've Got A Friend';

    How to break up with a friend? i'm 23, so it seems wierd that i have to post a question like this, but i could

    use some advice. long story, but basically i have a friend who has been annoying me for about the past 6 months or so. she is 10 years older than me, and kind of treats me like a child. she always wants to get together(we're both married) but i am comfortable doing my own thing, chillin' at home with the hubby, etc. i don't have a need to do somethinig all the time. i'm also not the kind of person that plans my whole weekend out. i end up doing whatever plays out. she will ask me on monday to do something saturday, but i just can't make that kind of committment that far in advance for something not so important. i end up saying maybe, but then i just want to relax, and she gets mad and tells me she's ';disappointed'; in me.





    it shouldn't be this hard to be friends with someone, but she intimidates me so it's very hard to be honest with her, and when i am, she blows it out of proportion and gets very defensive.How to break up with a friend? i'm 23, so it seems wierd that i have to post a question like this, but i could
    She is not really your friend, she clearly patronizes you, and she wants you to accompany her at her convenience. You have two solutions: next time when she calls you you need to tell her that this friendship is not really working for you and you need a break from it. That would require some guts if she intimidates you.


    The easier way is to tell that you have other plans (spending time with hubby is a perfectly valid plan) time and again. If she yells at you hang up. She should get the message. Get a spine Honey or bullies will make your life miserable. I have a friend like you who can't say no, who is manipulated into feeling guilty by someone like your friend and then she complains to me about it. And that's what I say to her: get a spine or stop complaining. People treat you the way you let them.How to break up with a friend? i'm 23, so it seems wierd that i have to post a question like this, but i could
    She doesn't sound like a 'friend', she sounds like an emotional vampire. Tell her you need to spend time with your husband and family, then avoid her and don't return her calls. If that doesn't work and she confronts you, tell her to back off. You don't have time to help her live her life. She's controlling and life is too short to deal with the likes of her.
    I know it's hard, but be firm with her. Tell her that you just don't want to deal with drama. Explain that you have your own lifestyle that you like, and don't want to change. Tell her if she can accept you as you are you will continue to be her friend, but if she can't, then you are going to end the relationship. I've had to deal with a sister who treats me kind of like you are describing, and I finally told her to take me as I am or leave me. It worked. She isn't pressuring me to be what she wants me to be anymore. I hope it works for you.
    Trying being honest again, and when she blows her top, just tell her that's not how you wish to be treated. If she continues, then tell her that it's better if you two don't hang out for a while.
    Once she has her baby she won't have as much time on her hands so I would just let it go for now. When she asks you to do something during the weekend just tell her that you don't like to make plans too far in advance because things change and your hubby sometimes suprises you at the last minute with plans of his own.
    It seems like you may be growing apart,


    the people you grow up with,is usually not the same person as she/he would be at a younger age.


    If she can't understand and respect you for you,break it down to her in a nice way.


    You may wanna have a life outside of your marrige,keep your hobbies and girlfriends,but if you don't have the same interests,you can't do nothing about it.





    Friendship involves: trust,respect,support and understanding,


    and if she can't provide that,move around!


    There is no need to break up in a ';mean way'; though.


    I really don't know,you have to decide and follow your own ';gutfeeling';!








    Good Luck!
    why dont you just ignore her phone calls, emails, say your busy, after a year she will get the hint an dgo away.
    Just tell her nicely that you prefer not to make plans ahead of time and that you enjoy the time you have with your hubby ,But say there is no reason you cannot get together every few months or so.If she takes it bad then that is her problem,don't let her intimidate you,you do what you want to do.A person that makes you feel bad and says your a disappointment is no real friend


    you go girl!
    Tell her the truth, and thats it. cuz it might affect you're family relationship.
    I would let it die out slow. stop answering her calls sometimes and let it go slowly. she'll get the message and you won't have to let her down so hard.
    Ignore until she is phased out of your life, if she asks you to do something tell your you already have a previous engagement, but dont specify, and dont explain yourself to her. You are a grown woman and you dont need to explain yourself to anyone