How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?

My friend has a boyfriend, he is rude. I tell her to break up with him. She just thinks he is so perfect, even though he calls her a nerd, loser, drew on her with a marker all over her favorite jacket, and said she is okay looking. I try telling her he is not right but she just doesn't listen. What should I do? What could I say to convince her he is the wrong person for her, and that she should break up with him?How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?
Don't tell her what to do, she'll probably get defensive.





I don't like my friend's bf and she knows it. Now she just never talks to me about him. She definitely never tells me when they fight because she thinks that i'll just use it against him.





You could do this:


Do you have a bf or a crush? Tell her you want her help in deciding if he's a good guy. If no crush right now, just pick a guy %26amp; pretend you like him.


You should ask her if she'll help you write a list of all the positive qualities a boyfriend should have. Tell her you want it for YOUR benefit, that way she doesn't try to defend her bf.





Then write a list about all the qualities you should try to avoid in a guy. Never bring up her bf in this discussion.





This will help her think about the bad things her bf is doing on her own.





then you should say, ';Lets circle everything that applies to our bf's. We should circle things about each other's bf too (or your crush)!.'; Make this a game %26amp; like you're doing it just for fun. Use different colored pens and count up the positive %26amp; negative qualities %26amp; compare.





OR:





Sit her down %26amp; tell her this is the last time you'll talk about her bf, and that you want a honest %26amp; open conversation.Tell her that after this you'll support her because you care more about being a close friend she can confide in than who she's dating (%26amp; I hope you do feel this way). Tell her that you don't know her bf like she does. You're just looking out for her because you want her to be happy. say you want to know the positives





Ask her if she is happy, and tell her to really think about this.


Ask her what about him makes her happy, and get specific qualities %26amp; actions he does. Tell her that you want to like him, and this will help you see the good qualities of him.


Ask her how she feels when he calls her names and if this effects her self esteem - does she take him seriously %26amp; then think she is a nerd/loser? Say that this would hurt you, %26amp; that's why you're worried it hurts her.


Ask how she felt when he drew on her jacket. Ask her why she thinks he did this.





In this conversation, NEVER say that you are against her bf %26amp; how you feel. Instead just ask how she feels about different things about him. Ask questions designed to make her think about how he makes her feel.





The goal in life is to find happiness. Just make sure she is happy. Support her no matter what her decision and make sure she feels comfortable to confide in you. Try not to judge.





*Nothing you say can make your friend see things differently. She's going to have to figure this out on her own.





My %26amp; my best friend don't like each other's bfs. It has hurt our relationship so much because we're defensive. I can never confide in her when me %26amp; my bf argue because she'll see it as evidence against him, and I can tell by her reaction. I feel like I constantly have to act like our relationship is perfect, %26amp; it sucks. . . Likewise, she does not confide in me about her relationship at all. I find out from a mutual friend when he's mean. Also, now, our bfs hate each other and so when we hang out, only 1 of them can be there.





*********If she stays with this guy, DO YOU WANT TO REMAIN FRIENDS %26amp; have a good relationship? If so, you are just going to have to accept things %26amp; be happy for her. Is it really worth it to ruin your friendship over a loser? I hope your realize you're too good for that. You are going to have to try to keep your mouth shut. It's hard, good friends are supposed to support each other no matter what.How to prove to my friend she should break up with her boyfriend. He is not very nice. He says rude things?
It's none of you're business, you need to understand that different people have different opinions and are looking for different things. What you see as being negative, she may see in a different light. You need to let her decide what is best, because you can never truly understand the relationship as well as she does. There is nothing that you can say to convince someone that what they feel is wrong, and you would be wrong to even try.





Good luck.
Well, maybe the boyfriend is only saying those words as a sign of his affection to her. Yeah, maybe they might not sound like the sweetest or kindest words, but everyone has their own ways of showing it. And your friend doesn't mind it probably because she knows him that well that it's who he truely is.





And I think you shouldn't do anything. Just let things go and if he really was wrong for her then let it be a lesson for her. Knowing that you have convinced her before will make her realize how you were right.





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Give her an outsider point of view


tell her you're thinking about going out with a guy, but he has a few ';flaws';


like he says you're not pretty,


he messes up all your stuff,


and he calls you a loser all the time, but YOU think he's dreamy..


ask her what she thinks of him


she'll says ';he sounds like a jerk! why would you want to go with HIM?!';


then you say


';i just described you're bf...think about it';
of course you being a good friend, youre gonna tell her all the bad things about him


her sounds like a real jerk to be honest


but she has to realize that on her own


no matter what you say, she has to figure it out herself


its not because shes not listening, its just that she wont get it until she finally makes the connection


hope this helps!
I know you are looking out for your friend and stuff but hun, you will have to let her learn. Talk to her one more time and if she doesn't believe you or whatever, say ';ok'; and then just leave. Leave it at that and don't bring it up unless she does first, if something goes wrong.
If you work out how, tell me. I know a girl thats been going with a guy for 4 years, the first 3 were ok, but now he just sleeps with anyone he can get his hands on, she knows it, but she 'loves' him so she wont break up with him.
sadly there is nothing you can do really and pretty soon she will let get annoyed and mad at you for keeping on her case the best thing to do is to ignore it and wait for her to realize she's really stupid to date assholes
According to alot of the answers on here.





It's safe to say that girls want to be treated like **** because nice people aren't good for healthy relationships





Dysfunctional ones are proffered more
You should let them get married and let them realize their own mistake.
You have to let her learn from her own mistakes and not play parent.
just let her go with him. she'll figure out soon enough that hes an ***.
tell her that he says all those things because he does not love her!
he's a real mother, and she need to dump his shisty @SS
catch him cheating


other than that let her be happy
Hey i know this one, it worked for me, have a lot of friends with you and all of you try to convince her to break up with him cause he's a jerk and is SO NOT right for her.. tell her how would it feel when she grows up, she'll be beaten by him, and threatned, cause you know boys that are rude and mean at this age can get worse anytime in the future, tell her that how would she risk her life then, so she should listen to you cause you are so right! tell her you dont wanna see her get hurt by him, and stuff, and what if he tries to do bad things to her and hurt her in the future.. have a lot of your friends gather up and convince her this. break up he's not right! tell her if HE says she's not pretty, and calls her bad stuff like a loser, nerd.. and so on, and those things like that he doesn't truly like her and she'll figure out what mistake she's made.





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good luck, you seem like an amazing friend..


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