Issue with my girl friend. break up or solution?

my relationship is a long story, please read and give me your feedback if you have a few min free time. thanks


It is more than a year that I'm in a relationship with my girl friend. I was 25 when I first met her and now I'm 27. I've changes a lot during this time. I used to love her so much, but it's been a while the relationship is not like the past. and one of the reason is that I am changing. There are certain things that I want in my relationship and there are only on thing that she wants( she wants to marry, although I'm just a student at this time and I'm not financially stable) I sometimes talk to her about things that I want from her( very simple things) she is getting fat, I ask her to exercise sometime, but she is so busy with school and work that she has no time. I like her to make up and take care of her body ( ex tar hair and ...) but she has no time for that either. when ever we are together she is tired and even fall asleep in my arm. when ever we are talking on the phone , she is busy. now you might tell me she don't like you, but she loves me and even she proposed me! yes she did. as I said I changed a lot in compare to last year. she understand me and I understand her, but other than that, we don't have things in common to talk about. I'm really getting bored in my relationship. we are habituated to each other, she loves me, but I'm losing my feeling. I've never cheated on her, and I won't til the day she is my girl friend. she doesn't attract me any more, when ever I see her she is tired and complaining. when I go out with her, I don't have that much thing to talk about with her, maybe just talking about other people.


and one thing for certain, I;m really not ready for marriage. but she is. what do you thing about my relationship. I don't wana heart her, she is a good girl and so sensitive. but I know if I stay with her in this situation, I'm hearing her any way, because she deserve someone who loves her.


what should I tell her.


I don't even think is at this time she start to take care of her self and body, make me interested again.


another thing that I forgot to say, I wrote that I used to love her, she still think I love her so much, but I see things in her that I was not aware of them in past. some characteristics that I don't want her to has. also I don't like her family. of course I can not tell her about these things. but how should I tell her about my feeling and our relationship so she undrestand me. I know if I want to break up with her she would be by my apartment every night and day.


she is so dependent on me more than she loves me, since her mom and dad didn't know how to give her love, but I'm really nice and kind to her. always listen to her and motivate her in her life.


she doesn't urn me on at all. ( I should say this that since she has a religious family we never had sex, she afraid of pregnancy, she thinks , so no sex. I really don't care about this part that we don't have sex. I deal with it, but her fear again turn me down. she has lots of fear, she afraid of elevator, she afraid of staying at home alone. she afraid of driving in free way.


she has many good things too, I trust her so much, she is so much caring , she is so kind and she really work hard, she is smart.





what do you think of this relation ship? should continue or should I stop? should I talk to her, if I should talk to her, what should I tell her?


thanks for you time.Issue with my girl friend. break up or solution?
looks like you are ovr with her , it was sort of infatuation , which is giving way now, so move on buddy , and if u want YOu can continue to make it workable....lolllzzzzz both ways it is open , consider this,...lolllzzzzz