Should I break up with him..?

Hi. Ok, so I have been dating the same guy for 2 and a half years now. (I'll be 18 in june, he is 19..) It has been quite a long time. Over the past few months,I have felt like we have lost total spark/connection..it's not the same. He works ridiculous hours, and its not even that, I just don't miss him anymore and I'm never excited to see him.I have tried really hard with him.. taking him out, making an effort to see him, but now I don't care and it seems like he doesn't either. We basically see eachother once a week, and he only texts me when he's pissed off at me or is questioning me. I've brought this to his attention many times and he tells me how I'm feeling is ';stupid.'; (I basically feel manipulated to stay with him) And that just beause i'm unhappy, its not his fault and stuff ( he blames my school, work and friends)





I feel content with everything BUT our relationship. Its only when he thinks he's going to lose me when he becomes the boy I used to know. I do love him, but my friends tell me that sometimes love isn't enough..I'm unhappy. He goes out of his way to upset me. For instance, I worked until 1 am last night, and he didn't believe that my dad came and picked me up.. he tried to make it seem like I got a ride from another boy.. Its just becoming to the point where I don't think I can handle it anymore. Also, if I hangout with my friends and if he doesn't know where I am or if I don't answer his texts within 5 minutes, it makes me a secretive b*****.





Sorry that this is so long.. there has been good in our relationship and 2 and a half years is a lot just to throw away..I'm afraid to break up with him, because he tends to be very manipulative and would just assume that I'm inlove with another guy. I really need advice on whether I SHOULD or not, and what I can say to make him understand. Thanks a lot!Should I break up with him..?
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Aww, I'm sorry to hear this. You should break up with him, I'm certain you can find someone else. I have a feeling you're a very sweet girl, and you shouldn't sell yourself short. I hope this helps =)
I'd say end it. I felt the exact same way you are with my last boyfriend. At the end I felt nothing, there was no connection, no spark, I was miserable, I never missed him even though we were long distance, when we did get together on weekends my reaction was ';horray.'; with that much enthusiasm, I didn't care if I talked to him, never returned his calls. I was always unhappy. It's true that love isn't enough. There's alot more that goes into maintaining a happy relationship.





He's also verbally abusive to you, controlling, manipulative... this isn't a person you should want to be with in the long run. Sure your time together may have been good in the beginning but it's deteriorated to the point that it's more of a hassle than anything else. You don't need this kind of stress and aggravation in your life. Loving relationships are supposed to make you feel great about yourself, happy, lift you up, make you a better person... does he do any of these things for you anymore?





You love him, but WHAT do you love about him? The fact that he curses at you and calls you names? Is so insecure that he texts you to find out where you are? The fact that he doesn't bother texting unless he has to bi*ch at you for something? The fact that he tells you that your feelings are stupid?
You need to work things out with him at once. If you break up with him now based upon what you just told me then this will be the biggest mistake of your life, trust me. C'mon, if you work till one in the morning and you have no car how can he prove that you are really at work if you only text each other when someone is upset. He really cares about losing you and being manipulative is a very harsh and inaccurate word to describe to us his current behavior now. You know how much you love each other just for the fact that you two are content all of the time, until the looming threat of a potential breakup comes knocking at the door, which is a resort that only foolish people or desperate cases resort to as a means to avert danger or sudden change in emotion. Do not break up with him, let him know where your going and if you are too ';proud'; to do that then simply invite him along to accompany you. If you are presenting yourself honestly and openly to him then there will be no problem with this understanding of concept at all. He will smile and say, ';Maybe for a few hours,'; or maybe not at all.'; Keep the spark alive in your relationship by not depending upon inanimate objects and places, food and money to distract your mind from him. Work less hours, start an online business. Text each other more often. Better yet, start a personal Twitter account. He will look at it through the day and smile wit the content fact at knowing your OK. He really cares about you and loves you deeply and the thought of him losing you seems very hard for him to handle. Being ';controlling'; in a relationship means that if you do not listen to each other for every single thing then you through temper tantrums like children. ';Manipulation'; - I think you need to look up that word in the dictionary because he never came right out and threatened you to stay with him. And even if he did, under what frame of mind did he say it under, after working a twelve hour shift or over a peaceful romantic dinner with you. Be the stronger person here and tell him honestly and openly how you feel but do it at a time when he is most subjective to logic and reason. I love the relationship you two share her just for the sheer fact that you asked this question on Yahoo Answers, alone. I have a crush with a girl I work with and she has a boyfriend, and my heart races when seeing her only because the thought of losing her causes ';trauma'; in my mind and in my soul, more than just a crush I'd say. The reason why you don't experience the same spark is because you think that everybody in this world has their feelings under control except you, which in theory isn't true at all. You want the spark back, try seeing him dating someone else or kissing another partner, this happened to me with my crush. Get your facts right please I do not mean to be offensive in any way but I absolutely, positively, guarantee you that this relationship can and will be saved. Be true to who you are and vice-versa should respond. Next comes counseling but DO NOT bring that into the picture until you are engaged and it becomes a state requirement in order for you to get lawfully wed, again with this response of open self-understanding complemented by genuine interest. You two will be forever if you both just ';want'; to. Love is shown here in numerous ways in your particular situation. Keep on striving for improvements.





';In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope.'; - Michael Jackson